There is a great importance in finding a church that matches your convictions and where you can lay your roots. This has shown to be of importance to me because over the past 3.5 months I’ve been here I haven’t been able to find a church in which I feel at home and connected. There was one church I had preference for but timing and distance didn’t work in my favour. That’s why I’m very thankful this opportunity arose where I was invited to a cell group with other international people just like me and they invited me to join them for church.
I have found a church where people are like me, TCK’s and internationals who surprisingly all live in or close to my little city. The first time I walked in to the group I wanted to cry, because for the first time in 3.5 months I got the slightest feeling of home and comfort. I underestimated what it would be like to uproot my life entirely and live on my own, figured I would just settle, have fun, be here two years and move on to the next place to continue my journey. Everything has gone differently than I had planned but I think that may have been the point. We can plan out our lives as much as we want but ultimately God is the one who is in control and we can’t change that.
Having all my plans shattered too it made this move even worse and harder, besides the fact of being alone in a new country I now also no longer had a plan or idea what I wanted with my life. That’s why going to this group helped me so much, I felt a sense of home and comfort and that it was okay I didn’t have it all figured out. It’s a church where I can understand what they’re preaching and grow my faith, I can connect with people who have gone through these same things and learn from them.
When adjusting to a completely new life, the biggest suggestion I give is attending a church the first Sunday you’re there. Saying no is too easy, making excuses is too easy, there will always be an excuse. Use your first Sunday to go and immediately put yourself in a good rhythm of going to Church. The first church you visit will not always be the one you end up attending, I had to try 3 different churches before finding this one. Keep searching till you find the church that makes you, like me, want to cry when you walk in because at that moment you know, this is where I’m supposed to be.